Posts Tagged ‘jewish circumcision’

“Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” and Brit Shalom Families — New Video

October 23, 2017

Brit Shalom families — Jewish and interfaith families opting out of circumcision — are a growing segment of the Jewish community. Here’s a presentation I made recently about the “don’t ask, don’t tell” situation in which these families may find themselves. Please click on the video to watch!


“Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” and the Circumcision Decision

May 26, 2017

When it comes to a Jewish boy’s circumcision status, is “don’t ask, don’t tell” a reasonable policy?

That’s the question I’ll be posing at my upcoming book event on Sunday, June 11th at 11 a.m. at the East Bay Jewish Community Center in Berkeley, where I’ll be reading from Celebrating Brit Shalom, the first-ever book written specifically for Jewish families opting out of circumcision.

As my co-author Rebecca Wald and I have discovered, today’s Jewish community includes many Jewish and interfaith families who have opted out of circumcision. In fact, a few mainstream rabbis have made the same choice—under the radar, that is. Think about it: if even rabbis are afraid to “come out” about their decision, how can other such families feel truly welcomed by Jewish institutions?

How has circumcision become today’s big “don’t ask, don’t tell” issue in the Jewish world? And how would our community benefit if our institutions sent a clear message of inclusion to non-circumcising families? Come find out!

Video of Celebrating Brit Shalom Book and Music Presentation

June 17, 2016

blue-soapbox On Sunday, May 1st, I gave a presentation on Celebrating Brit Shalom, the first comprehensive resource for Jewish families questioning, and opting out of, circumcision. The event took place at Temple Sinai in Oakland, and the video is now available (attached below; scroll down). I only wish my Floridian co-author, Rebecca Wald, had been able to join me.


I’m delighted to have had the opportunity to speak at my own congregation, and am especially grateful to Rabbi Jacqueline Mates-Muchin for her groundbreaking introduction. Here’s what Rabbi Mates-Muchin said about Jewish families choosing not to circumcise:

“What I have appreciated so much about Lisa’s contribution to this conversation [is that] we don’t have to argue about who’s right… As an established Jewish community, what we need to recognize is that Jewish families are making this decision [not to circumcise]. So what do we do from there? Do we welcome and include the people who are interested in connecting with Jewish community and Jewish tradition and Jewish life? Or do we leave them out of this story? It is very much in our interest, and in the interest of so many of the other Reform congregations throughout the country… [to] say of course we want to welcome people, we want to connect people.”

To my knowledge, up until now, no rabbi of a major congregation has publicly acknowledged that non-circumcising families exist in the Jewish community—and that they should be included and welcomed. Since this is an idea I’ve been pushing for a number of years now, the rabbi’s recognition was a thrilling moment for me.

After making a brief presentation about my own experience when my sons were born, I read excerpts from Celebrating Brit Shalom, then led a Q & A period among members of the congregation, non-Jewish intactivists, and others in attendance including several Jewish members with intact sons. It was a remarkably civil, respectful discussion, given that the topic of circumcision can be very contentious.

The event also included a live performance of Songs for Celebrating Brit Shalom, the music written to accompany the ceremonies in the book. I was joined by my son Reuben Moss, who composed the music, and eight other Temple Sinai singers for this debut performance. I’m so very grateful to Michele Buchman, Eve Chosak, Andrea Daniel, Jessica Furer, my husband Mark Moss, Norma Blase Perelstein, Orit Vogel and Claire Warhaftig for their musical participation.


Singers performing Songs for Celebrating Brit Shalom.



My miniature diorama of a brit shalom ceremony.



Brit shalom babies smile at 8 days.



Note that most babies need two months to begin smiling. A very precocious infant here…







I hope you enjoy the video, which was shot, edited and produced by Dominic Beard.